Learning To Say “NO”!


Today was supposed to be a relaxing day, I’m off and have nothing that needs my immediate attention. Or so I thought. Woke with a call from my mom asking for directions from Georgia to South Carolina, my ex asking me to help him market to a liquor company (you’ll hear more about him in other posts), and someone asking me for a $300 loan. And how did I get into this predicament? Not learning to say “No” sooner.

Helping others is one thing I definitely enjoy. I work for the post office, so MY customer service game is on point (I can’t speak for other clerks), so I rarely tell customers “no” or that I can’t find something. I’ve volunteered with the Red Cross, my local CASA, and countless events with my mom who does event planning. So helping comes natural. The problem appears when those around me are used to getting the those few extra miles from me (notice I didn’t say an extra mile), and I say or attempt to say no. Then, I’m acting funny, difficult, or they’ll try to say something to make me feel about 2 inches small.

For those people who try to do that, shame on them. But it’s also on us for allowing them to believe we will be at their every beck and call. Don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with helping others, but personal time is extremely important. And sometimes people just have to learn to do without you. They’ve made it this far without you, they won’t die if you get a little personal time.

So, for those like me, who tends to put more on their plate than they can handle, saying no isn’t a walk in the park but it can be done. I’m not gonna tell you to stand in front of the mirror and practice saying it, but before jumping to that quick yes, think about yourself first. It’s ok to be a little selfish at times, everyone else is.

An Interview with N.B of N.B Music

With an ability to rap, sing, write, act, and even tell a joke, the Douglas, GA native is always finding ways to expand his brand. Starting around age 4, N.B was bit with the entertainment bug. He would perform for all who would listen. He became a man on a mission to be seen and heard in the entertainment industry. Not only has he made his music a dream come true, he has added acting to his resume. N.B made his acting debut on TruTv’s South Beach Tow, followed by HBO’s “Ballers”, and Alvin and the Chipmunks 4. Recently, I had an opportunity to speak with N.B and get a little personal.


TAW: So let’s just dive right in. If you weren’t doing music, what else would you be doing?

N.B:  I would definitely put more focus and time into acting.

TAW: If you had to do it all over again, would you still choose this career? Would you do anything differently?

N.B: God blessed me with the ability to do music so from the age of 4, I never felt like I was going to do anything else but music and entertaining.

TAW: What do you like to do in your free time?

N.B: I enjoy a little Madden ’18 on the PS4 and enjoy family time. I’m currently working on launching my own podcast, along with a few other side projects.

TAW: Do you get nervous before performances?

N.B: Sometimes but all I need is a couple of shots of Patron and that nervousness goes away, and it’s lights, camera, action lol.

TAW: In your experience thus far, what is the best piece of advice in this business you actually followed? And one you didn’t follow, but now know for sure that you should have?

N.B: Trial and error is your best teacher, nothing happens overnight so if you really believe in yourself, your dreams will manifest. Earlier in my music career I should have been more humble, that is something that I regret.

TAW: What personal advice would you give to someone wanting to pursue this career?

N.B: Focus on your craft, build your social media following, and don’t chase record labels. Let the record labels chase you.

TAW: So let’s say we finish the interview and you step outside and find a lottery ticket that ends up winning $10 million, what would you do?

N.B: First of all I would start by taking care of everybody that believed in me and stuck with me throughout my career; my mom, my previous assistant, and homeless veterans. I would also invest in minority businesses so they too can see first generational wealth, and finally start my own record label so I can groom and develop the next Superstar for years to come. As you can see I want to do things for other people and put me last to show my appreciation and the love I have for helping others

TAW: Any Final Shout-Outs?

N.B: I want to give a special shout-out to The Assistant’s World for giving me the opportunity for the world to know a little piece about me. I also want to thank God for blessing other people to still be interested in knowing about me and what I’ve got going on so stay tuned. It gets better.

I’d like to thank N.B for taking time out to speak with me, for more information, music, and updates about N.B check out the links below.





Welcome To My World

Let me start out by thanking and welcoming you to my humble world. This is my first blog, but I have many things to share. I’ve worked for an acupuncturist, a high-end jewelry company, went to school for music business, was an assistant/manager/stylist and girlfriend to an independent artist turned actor turned overall entertainer, and now I work for the post office as a clerk and do some consulting and contract writing on the side.

Again thank you and enjoy!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton


Things Your Postal Clerk Wish You’d Stop Doing NOW!!!

I’ve been working as a clerk for almost two years, and don’t get me wrong I love my job, even in a small town this city girl gets to meet new people every day and each interaction is different. But sometimes I get those few customers that just knows how to annoy the mess out of me. Most of the time it’s a customer that has had more than a few bad experiences with the post office. Just keep in mind all of us are not the same. I’ve listed a few things that most clerks would wish you’d stop doing when coming to our counter. If you find yourself doing any of these things for the sake of our sanity, please stop it.

Asking dumb questions. We were all taught there are no dumb questions, but….let’s face it, we know better. One of my biggest pet peeve’s is when people call or come into my office and tell me they’re looking for package, but they have no tracking number. What exactly do you want me to do? There’s a reason for tracking numbers.

Asking what kind of stamps we have. More specifically asking to see our whole stamp inventory. Does it really matter if I give you a stamp with a flower, flag, dog, cat, or fireworks, once you place it on the envelope; it’s out of your hands. Now usually I find that older women fall into this category. For example everyone loves the Pets stamps, but no one likes the snakes…guess what?!? It’s a stamp and once you place it on the letter, you’ll never see it again! Seems simple enough, right?

Being rude. I’m fairly a nice person, but I’ve come to the conclusion just as many have, some people just wake up rude. If you’re one of those people, please send someone else on your behalf. We have enough attitudes in the office, we don’t need yours too.

Not watching your children. I don’t get this one too often, but it’s more of a safety concern. The post office isn’t the Play Place. Lucky for me the children that come into my office seem to be pretty well behave. But I’ve had a few where one minute the child is standing next to the parent at the counter and the next they’re playing at the door. The first thing I think is “I am not responsible for your child getting injured”. But I’ve also heard horror stories of children being disrespectful to clerks. I’ve had a 7-year-old come in with a 5-year-old sibling by themselves and try to jump the line while I was helping a customer. I asked them nicely to wait, but apparently they had not being trained in the art of being patient, well they learned that day, I ignored them until I was done with the customers ahead of them. I don’t allow disrespect in my office so with that being said please control your children.

Forgetting we are human. Because I’m the only person in my office, I’m the one that puts the mail in the PO Boxes, runs the counter and answers the phone. So hate to break it to you but….every now and then I’ll make a mistake or I’ll forget to return a customer’s call. It doesn’t happen often in smaller offices, but if it happens in small offices what do you think larger offices have to deal with? We are supposed to be everything to everyone, supervisors expects us to distribute packages and letters from the postal plant, FedEx, UPS, Amazon, and DHL, service customers and put up the mail. No matter how large the office is, it’s only a handful of clerks doing all this work. So please be a little patient with us.

This one is probably the most important…. WE DON’T KNOW EVERYTHING!!!! I only use caps because people have a tendency to think we as clerks know why the carrier misplaced their mail, didn’t deliver a package, is late delivering mail, or why they haven’t gotten their package. We don’t know, we don’t work in plants, we work the counter, and if we have it you’ll have it. Don’t think we’re sitting around holding your package or mail hostage, because we’re not.

As much as we tend to complain about these people, they are the ones that usually add a little excitement to the day, but they are also the ones we warn other clerks about!